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There is this saying, “do whatever which pleases you” or “life is short, be happy.” I agree with it as a choice in life, which means to look at life positively. But i disagree to use it when making decisions. I believe people who stand firm on this phrase when making decision, will discover that they have yet to accomplish anything in life when they reach old age.

We often heard, “开心就好，你管这么多做设么？” but does it really work? I believe when you are reading this, there will be many instants that come to your mind when you say that phrase. I remember many instants which i use the above in decision making, over a home visitation or a party, over a branded wallet or savings for future, over a bottle of martell or stay sober. It may sound perfectly fine just to have fun, but there are some situation where this phrase become selfish. We often think of our own pleasure and cause pain to people around us. I notice this phrase often bring pleasure that doesn’t last for long and people will keep using this phrase again and again because they need to rekindle the pleasure again and again for the fact that it doesn’t last.

When making a decision, to buy a sports car or a family car, we need to plan for long term, see our level of commitment and plan for the worst. If not, we will be in trouble when things turn bad and trust me, things always turn bad in this world. When we make a decision over to home visit a relative or a party, we might want to think of the value of each situation and be unselfish to our decision. When you need to go for a meeting in office tomorrow morning, and your good friend ask you to party with him and his chicks, will you use “开心就好，你管这么多做设么？” to see the big picture? I can think of 101 situations and you can see that after the whole process, you and your love ones will be the consequence of your decision. Are you really heartless enough to bring everybody through the decision you make? In the 1st situation, your family and yourself will be affected. In the 2nd situation, your relative, your friends and yourself will be affected. 3rd decision, your boss, your colleague and yourself will be affected.

The above are direct examples, there are many indirect situations which we use “开心就好，你管这么多做设么？” and neglected our love ones. I remember there was once, my grandmother told me to come home for dinner, i agreed but didn’t obey because i was out with girls. I left my grandmother waiting for me and re-heat the food for nothing. Although she didn’t make any noise and still smile when i go home, but what i just did was turning hope into disappointment. How would you feel if your lover do that to you? Or you heat up food for your mother just to know that she is too busy playing majong and neglected you? It may be tough for you to love somebody who don’t love you, but are you loving back people who are already loving you? Is there any extra mile involved?

I am not perfect and not a noble man of the earth, but i just want to share some values i learned recently and hope it can change my life. I am starting to look for love and pleasure which has a meaning and will last, not temporary. When you become unselfish, you will find yourself sacrificing all the time and very miserable. Hence the phrase, sow with tears and reap with joy. Find every opportunity to give and you will be the greatest receiver.

There are some things in life you can afford not to gain, but you cannot afford to lose.

There was a business owner name Michael, Michael loves to travel, and he would go on holiday every year without fail to accompany his wife and kids. In one year of his holiday, he selected an island which is isolated and very beautiful, not many people know the existence of this island. He went to the island and book a hut by the beach for one week. When he was there, he experience the comfort of simple life, everybody is happy and very simple in their way of life, very laid back, very easy. He also notice that every morning, there will be a fisherman who walk pass his hut and go fishing, the method he use is simple yet very effective, not only to catch fish in a faster way but the way he lure the fish has never been discovered before. The fish under his catch will always be larger and better than that of other fishermen. The fisherman will then come back to shore after fishing, give some of his fish away to his neighbour and have the rest for his family and himself. Michael decided to approach this fisherman on his last day of stay, he asked the fisherman his age and experience about fishing. The fisherman said he is 40 years old and the method he used was discovered a year ago only. Michael told the fisherman, “if u were to go back to my city and set up a company using this method of fishing, u would be a multi millionaire in 15 to 20 years.” The fisherman then ask Michael, “what would u do after u become a multi millionarie?” Michael said, “well.. after i have lotz of money, i can do whatever i want, go places i want to go and retire in peace without much problem” The fisherman smile and said to Michael, “seems like we have a common interest. Anyway, u can have my method for free because I don’t need another 15 to 20 years to do what i am doing now”

Sometimes we work so hard, we forgot to live our life. We become slaves of materialism and wealth. We forgot that pleasure can come from other areas beside wealth and fame. We are looking forward to the next car, next house, next promotion, next bonus, next sales until we forgot about our next of kin. We can be so busy studying or working until we forgot there’s somebody lonely and waiting for us for accompany them for meal, we forgot that there’s somebody hurt and waiting for us to heal that hurt, we give so much pressure to each other until everybody is exploding.

When we are in difficulties in terms of wealth, people around us give us so much pressure until it paralyse our ability in loving. We forgot how to love our frens, family, pets, lover and sometimes they are the ones who give us the pressure. How wonderful would it be if everybody were to step a step back and see the whole picture?

Can you really afford to neglect everything else other than wealth?

* There is a group of people around and i term it “We” *

We are in the world but not of the world.

Being sheeps among wolves, we might be vulnerable and weak externally.
So in order to not to be crushed when we are being hard pressed, we need to equip ourselves with the right knowledge, values, mindset, behaviour, rules and commitment; so we will not be shaken or destroyed internally. Inside us, we are upset but hopeful, we are vulnerable but protected, we will be broken down but rebuilt stronger, never insecure but confident.

Don’t avoid the wolves, in your life; you cannot be the hero if there is no war and there will be no light if you don’t shine.

Choose for yourself, be evil wolve or sheep who bring hope? But! are you ready for it yet?

One interact with the world through the heart..

If the heart is hardened and cold, the world will feel him hardened and cold..
If the heart is soft and relax, the world will feel his friendliness and kindness..
If the heart is evil and cunning, the world will seek revenge at him on his work..

If you want to give and receive the world with values, then guard your heart more than anything else, because the source of your life flows from it.